Let’s talk about re-creation. It’s a brilliant word. A profound thing to do.
When things are heating up with your spouse, your child, or coworker, it’s a really good idea to create a “time out” for yourself. Stressful conversations and events can greatly diminish brain function, spiraling conversations into reactive, hurtful episodes instead of constructive, collaborative ones. So to get back in your total brain, research says you need to discipline yourself, and take a break.
Not all “breaks” are created equal.The best breaks involve doing something completely unrelated to the heat you were feeling. Don’t allow yourself to ruminate about the conflict. Read. Exercise. Work. Let your physiology calm down before you return and start again. Gottman research tells us a good break is a minimum of 20 minutes. (Good luck moms!)
What are your strategies for taking a good break?